By Ex-Baba
Mrs Phyllis Krystal is a well known Sai devotee, a fact that she keeps separate from her healing method to be found in her books Cutting the Ties that Bind. She recently visited The Netherlands to give a workshop on ‘Cutting the binding ties’, and was invited by the Dutch Sai people to present a lecture in Eindhoven, a city in The Netherlands, which she was pleased to follow up on. So on Sunday October 13, 2002, she entered a room in an elementary school that was nicely decorated with a huge lotus quilt and SB's photograph, a table with a candle and a flower, another SB picture on the wall. Nice bhajans were sung as an opening and pleasantly set the atmosphere.
Mrs Krystal is old of age and fragile, yet not one bit senile. She talked for over two hours, (precisely translated sentence after sentence), about some of her first experiences with Baba. One of them was on the fact that she'd dressed like a student and Baba had wanted her to dress like she would dress in her home country, the States. Message of the story: you, devotees, have to dress (and behave) according to your position in society, for that is the best way to promote Sai Baba’s mission. She also spoke of some more recent happenings, namely that she recently had had two car accidents. This causes her difficulties walking and a lot of pain. About this she shared that she inwardly at times screams at Baba: “Swami why did this happen?! Why?! The other drivers made mistakes, but why did they hurt me?” The answer she finds for these questions lies in her reasoning, as she told the audience: “But there must be a lesson in it, for Swami, who lately has said more than once to the college boys that he might not live up to the age he has predicted for so long, is speeding up the lessons we can have on earth and transform our karma.”
About 70 people came to hear Phyllis Krystal speak. Among them the director of the Dutch Sai Organisation, Mrs Trees Stevens. Only four people had a chance to pose her a question, to which Mrs Krystal answered at length. Afterwards, a last bhajan was sung and Mrs Krystal left. The audience remained for tea and cake.
None of the questioners asked how Mrs Krystal can remain a Sai devotee while she is aware of stories accusing Sai Baba of sexual misconduct.* Having heard Mrs Krystal speak, seen the audience, and heard the singing, the answer to a question like why Sai devotees remain devotees, and how they (particularly Mrs Krystal) remain to have faith in Sai Baba when is known that Sai Baba is accused of sexual misconduct, can be anticipated. Within a rather open, loving and friendly environment, Mrs Krystal had explained clearly how Sai Baba brings out all kinds of hidden, painful, negative emotions in people. This happens on purpose. All the painful and negative feelings and emotions are brought to the surface so it can be dealt with and get transformed into love and light. For Sai Baba is believed to be on earth to help those who are open for this process, to alter old karma, especially now humanity is in the middle of the Kaliyuga era.
* See for instance the letter by John Hislop dated 18 January 1981, in which Hislop said that the “Directors Bayer, Goldstein, Krystal and myself have been going over and over the problem as we were talking together this weekend.” The problem being the case of an American boy who in the late 1970’s as the first westener attended Sai Baba’s College in India. His experience that Sai Baba had asked him to perform oral sex on him, came out in 1980 school and his parents were devastated.
There is no use in putting questions to such a person as Phyllis Krystal. I have met her - in UK - and heard her holding forth at Hamburg (1990). Reidun was rebuffed angrily by her by speaking to her when she was at lunch there, and Reidun was very upset by this unwarranted treatment. However, Reidun went to a workshop with PK in Copenhagen some months later, and was disappointed.
My immediate reaction to her was that I was struck by the falsity of her very controlled voice (but with a recognisable British whine under the gushing US patina), and her general kind of self-projection... I think someone whose life was virtually empty but for talking and writing and being admired as a Sai devotee supreme. As I have written in one of my articles (about SB's broken promises etc.), she dissembled and even lied outright about having been cured of pain by SB (this I know, because I knew well Lucas Ralli and partly also his wife - who were very close to her and hosted her on UK visits etc. She was still on large doses of pain killers).
When I heard her speak in London (as a Ralli-organised meeting), she said during her replies to questions that 'Swami sometimes answers through me', which immediately made me suspicious, because of the way in which she said it and the context etc. Apropos, her host, Lucas, was an officially-recognised channel for SB too, his 'Messages for You and Me' in five vols. were accredited by SB too! I can well imagine that there was some competition mentality with Lucas there... not least because Shah had tried to cut her out of the Sai movement, warning all Org. leaders that she was not (and still is not) a member of the Sai Org., but Lucas was then the UK President (later Central Coordinator for UK). She fitted into the Ralli/Peggy Mason/Ron Laing gang because of all the mediumistic stuff they all loved (messages from the dead, ghosts, angels etc.) and she produced some fantastic fancies herself - about being shown by the Lord how Russia was under the darkest cloud on earth etc. and suchlike. Rather the kind of dreams that so many SB followers take quite literally (i.e. Rita Bruce with the destruction of the US by germ warfare and earthquakes etc. as reported in her first book). All these people are prime exponents of spiritual doublethink and what might be called self-hypnosis.
One has to be sorry for her too... she has gone through more hell and high water for SB than most of us!
Robert Priddy
Furthermore, Dutch Matthijs van der Meer talked with Mrs Krystal about the sexual abuse matter. He wrote about his meeting with her in his article in Spiegelbeeld October 2000, in which he testified to having been subjected involuntarily to 'oiling' by SB himself, and he related how Keith Ord had told him how Ord’s friend Michael Pender was forced into oral sex by Sai Baba and later took his own life in the UK. Van der Meer had visited Lucas Ralli and talked with him about his own, Ord’s and Pender’s experiences, years before the The Findings exposé appeared, with no satisfying results, so Van der Meer investigated further as follows:
Interesting that she didn't refute it out of hand. She did have a fairly sophisticated way of dealing with questions, but none the less deluded for all that! Her millionnairess lifestyle fitted badly with the role SB gave her as a lecturer on 'Ceiling on Desires' - while in Copenhagen she lived at the very most expensive super-luxury hotel (declining devotees' invitations to stay)! I was struck by the complete disinteredness in SB of her husband, even at an interview (where both of them and I were present, in 1987) and at the Hamburg Sai Conference. He looked rather like a kind of Oliver Hardy (but with white hair and glasses) and was merely accompanying Phyllis! Rather odd!
Her books are just the kind that I really could not stomach from the word go! These Americanised 'positive thinking' ideas and what I see as the sickly spiritual semantical coating lead to a kind of voluntary self-brain-washing because, as I see them, they fail to strike the balance between reality and fantasy. Though I am not any longer a paid-up believer in Freud, Adler, Jung and co., I think they are less dangerous than the promised self-enhancement, which is actually too often a basically self-denial and refutation of unpleasant experience in the new-age'ish fashion. I have come to regard much of the kind of 'inner work' she teaches as pseudo-spirituality for impressionable people who are too hung up on a fantasy world and an imagined purity of psyche, but seldom really productive of authentic self-knowledge or spirituality in everyday life. In my view, PK's failure to keep her promise to update such an anguished person as van der Meer evidently was, never even to contact him again - is typical of many Sai VIPs and speaks of anti-spiritual disregard of others or even gutlessness.
Well, these are just my views, for what they may be worth.