VERY CONFUSED THINKING ABOUT GENITAL OILING FURTHER
EXAMINED
by Asa Samsioe, practising psychologist.
Reply to another anonymous mail from saionline, a group of
young stubbornly unquestioning sai website-makers:
You have sent us another e-mail. And to be on the safe side, you wrote that
you are not interested in our opinion....
But you can´t prevent me from answering your letter, even if you prefer to put
your head in the sand and hide yourselves away too. Sorry to say, but your
arguments about sexuality are very ignorant, simplified and naive, even though
I can see the trials you are going through in trying to enlighten us.
Your conclusions are that all SB's victims have sexual problems of some sort.
And you suppose that SB's sexual molestations are due to his motive to
influence the sexual energies of young men, presumably to reduce their sexual
urge....
In your earlier e-mails to me you have already written: “the
‘victims’ referred in the web site have a history of conducting rape,
molestation, and other sexual crimes or excess sexual habits leading to crude
exploitation which they could not control or find relief or assistance from“.
And you try to explain and defend SB's sexual actions with: “It
is MEN here who are being 'de-sexualized', if one could give it a name as
such. There is no such thing as 'raising Kundalini' and all sorts of nonsense
which has been imagined. Men have simply been taken off some of their sexual
impulses for the sake of women. It's as simple as that.”
Thirty years ago, they made an investigation in
Sweden, concerning prostitution and other sexual deviations and perversions,
like rape etc. The investigators conclusions were that the motivating force
behind deviant sexual behavior, doesn´t have much to do with sexuality. They
found out that these persons often had a mental disturbance, or a primitive
and immature personality. Rape for example, is actually not a question of
excess sexuality, that cannot be controlled, as you may believe. It is rather
caused of disdain towards women and greed for power over another being, as a
compensation for deep feelings of worthlessness and powerlessness. Even Erich
Fromm, the well known psychologist, wrote that it is a psychoanalytical
observation, without doubt, that the intensity in the subjective feeling of
experienced sexual desire, (inclusive the physiological reactions) depends on
non sexual feelings.... as for example greed for power, narcissism,
sadism, anguish, loneliness, gloominess and so on. Thus it is not sexuality
per se, that is the main problem or the motivating force behind deviant sexual
actions.....
From that point of view, it is rather absurd to believe that you can cure
these persons by manipulating their genitals, as your pederast avatar does.
These actions of his, must be very irrelevant for the purpose you have in
view. Then he would have to remake those persons personality completely, from
its very foundation.... And why should SB do that, when at the same time, he
always reminds us, that he doesn´t interfere with peoples spiritual growth;
that we have to do the job ourselves....
You wrote: “A real guru will not give guidance to anyone who does not ask
him.”
SB has hardly asked his victims if they wanted some sort of sexual guidance
from him, nor did he ask them if they wanted him to molest them. Some of his
victims even got such a shock and were so disillusioned, that they took their
own lives. Many young men who sought (not 'searched') spiritual guidance from
SB, have experienced that the only thing he gave them was sexual and bodily
insults...
If SB's sexual methods are so effective, beneficial and salutary, why would
his victims react in such a negative way? And why would all these young and
devoted men, who have got so much attention and “love” from SB, suddenly stop
visiting his ashrams....??
You wrote: “Rules are different for those of low sexual energy, a form of
spiritual impotency, where some form of encouragement may be required to
heighten this energy and is completely depended on individual cases.”
I don´t think that sexual impotence or “low sexual energy” is a big problem
for all these young and vigorous men and boys who get “sexual guidance” from
SB. Rather it is elderly men, who are bothered by that sort of problems.
But for some reason their genitals are not interesting targets for SB's sexual
manipulations.
You wrote: “Your "victims" all belong to one or
several of the following categories:
“iii. they are involved in excess masturbation.”
Don´t you know on saionline, that there are women to, who are
masturbating....and even elderly men. You claim to know that the hundreds
(perhaps thousands) of boys and young men who have had their genitals oiled
and rubbed by SB practiced excess masturbation. How do you know, did you carry
out a systematic research of everyone through 30 years? No, you do not present
a single jot of evidence! Further, how do you decide what is 'excess'
masturbation? Obviously you condone some measure of masturbation, and
presumably therefore practice it too. This would be quite normal, for the
psychologically-enlightened world does not consider it an unnatural or
destructive act. Moreover,
as a biological function it is surely healthier than unsafe sex of any kind.
It would be interesting to know where you decide to set the limit you have set
up for 'excess masturbation' and have used to judge the auto-erotic activities
of so many of SB's victims (i.e. number of times per week or month etc.). It
is doubtless patently obvious to most people that you are inventing
everything and that you are all evidently in a condition of psychic denial.
You wrote: “They are no victims of anything. If
Sai Baba wanted them for sex (which is a ridiculous claim by ignorant people)
there would be no need to keep them behind a curtain for 3-4 minutes with a
whole group waiting in the adjoining room! He could easily have asked them to
come to his private room in the poornachandra at night.”
The sexual molestations occur both in SB:s
private bedroom and behind the curtain. It is commonly known that
SB constantly shared his bedroom apartment with boys or young men, he has even
stated this in discourses! Some boys are kept behind the interview room DOORS
for up to 10 minutes. You have even been sent a photo of the PN private
interview room (blue) doors with the bloody floor from the notorious 1993
killings of Sai students! Perhaps it is still more sexually stimulating for SB
to do it behind the curtain. It is a well known fact that the excitement in
running the risk of being exposed, can be very sexually stimulating. Have you
forgotten the sexual escapades of Bill Clinton? He had sex with that young
woman, when at the same time there were top politicians from abroad, waiting
for him in the adjoining room. He even had sex with her when he was speaking
on the phone.... This applies especially to a person like SB, with a
narcissistic personality disorder, who is convinced that he is invincible. The
unasked-for oilings are a perverse way of exercising personal power over young
people to entrap them more fully. However, it does not always work!
You wrote: “What is further ridiculous, is that
they have kept returning year after year, being upset if they have not
received more interviews. What abuse-victim voluntarily travels to India,
spends a lot of money, suffers from "abuse" and seeks it with force?”
That a young person doubts himself and his own
experiences, when the Being, who he thinks is GOD, does that sort of things
with him, is certainly not a strange thing.
How many young and devoted men and boys, have the courage, to immediately
understand and take the consequences of what they have experienced? Like
children, who have experienced incest from a person they are attached to and
love, these young men also have been deceived and betrayed.
There is a big risk that they will take the guilt and the shame on themselves,
and that they will turn all the destructiveness towards themselves. This is a
very common reaction for victims of incest. And those actions of SB can be
compared with incest.
That there is often a strong attachment between a victim and his/her abuser,
couldn´t be quite unknown for saionline. Have you never pondered over all
these women who are roughly maltreated by their husbands, but prefer to go on
living with them for years?
In the Danish documentary film about SB's trickery and sexual abuse, the US
youth 'Sam Young' went back to visit SB after being abused because his
parents wanted it. He had been brought up since babyhood by them to believe
that SB is God! He did not dare to say anything to them due to his confused
feelings and - even when he realised because it became was full sexual abuse
- he could not speak to his parents because he thought how terrible it would
be for them to know what SB had done to him, because this would be like
taking their belief in God from them. Further, he held himself back from
doing anything that might destroy the large Sai Organisation. He also knew
numerous Indian student victims who told him that they could never tell
their parents because they could not reckon on being believed or, in the
best case, that whatever SB did must be for their own good.
And at last: How is it, that almost only those young and good looking
boys, with mostly fair complexion, are those who have the greatest need for
SB's sexual guidance? Why don´t the elderly men, the women or those boys who
are not so good looking, need this sort of guidance? This is a question that
you on saionline have avoided answering all the time. You can rest fully
assured that the sane world will never believe the untrue accounts you
invent.